📖What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Book by Shad Helmstetter

Topic: Self-Talk, Mental Programming| Medium: Audible | Rating: 4/5

• Sucess is all mental programming.
• Our brain will accept the programming as fact.
• What you believe it will create. It was no choice.
• Before the age of 18 we were told no 148,000 thousand times.
• Before the age of 18 we were told "Yes" "What you can do" - 3-4 times.
• We have more negative programing - 77% of what we think is negative, counter-productive and works against us.
• Power of repetition.
• What if I had different beliefs?
• Imagine if you didn’t have your self-doubt programming?
• Creating positive lasting change - be ingrained in you, know how to ingrain it, new words by programming.
• The brain accepts whatever you tell it, whatever your program.
• Easier to talk about problems than exciting futures.
• We cause our success and failure.

Steps that control programming:

1. Behaviour - actions do or not do.
2. Feelings - influences or actions.
3. Attitude - good and bad.
4. Beliefs - so powerful- does not require something to be true.
5. Programming - what we are told to believe.

5 levels of self-talk:

1. Negative acceptance - "I can’t". "I wish I could".
2. Recognition and need to change - "I should", "I need". Creates a problem but not a solution. If you finish the sentence it’s a level 1. “I should be more positive…. But I’m not” --> creates guilt.
3. Decision to change - "I never", "I no longer" e.g., "I no longer choose to be victim".
4. "I do", "I can".
5. "It is".

Brain elasticity:

• Positive thinking = bigger left brain.
• Negative thinking = bigger right brain.
• Change the neurons!!
• Mental apartment - furnished by hand me downs from people (their shit).
• Clean out furniture - burn it, don’t pass it on.
• Get new furniture.
• External motivation is temporary.
• It can’t be stored in the brain.
• Be your own coach.
• If it’s not simple it won’t work.
  

5 methods of self-talk:

1. Silent - conscious and unconscious

• “I am rich and will become richer by providing more value to the world”
• “I am in control of my finances” “today especially”
• “I love problems. I am capable and can conquer anything”
• “Maintaining a 6 pack is easy for me”
• “Losing weight is easy for me”
• Complaining to others is not helpful - it doesn’t fix the situation - winners still have problems but they talk about them differently !!!!!!!!!!!!

2. Self Conversation - out loud

• Shower talk
• Respond to yourself - what can you do today?!

3. Self write - cards for each situation a read until the program goes away
4. Self-talk
5. Listen

• Even if you didn’t believe your subconscious doesn’t care.
• 85% of learning comes from listening.

Why better someone else?

• We are more critical of our own voice.
• Better to learn from someone else who knows the vocabulary.
• LEARNING THE LANGUAGE OF SUCCESS.
• Your past doesn’t matter - it’s about your programming now for your future.

Getting started:

• Monitor - mindfulness being aware of being aware.
• Once you recognise a negative thought - rewire it straight away.
• Listen.
• Repetition is key.
• Start with programming. The rest will follow.
• Recommended self-talk to get started: (1) Self-esteem; (2) Taking control of your life; (3) Setting goals.
• First thing you recognise is the old programming arguing.
• The right attitude affects your results.
• Reframe problems as challenges.
• Situational self talk.
• Goal: make it a daily practice. Listen 15mins a day.

Habituate:

• Frame in past tense.
• Break down the habit from all angles.
• Talk about the new and old habit.