📖 Rejection Proof By Jia Jiang
Topic: Rejection, Self-Help| Medium: Audible | Rating: 4/5
Notes:
- Exchange to the US - convicted murderer and stole money
- Ambitious guy afraid of rejection
- So sweet the support of his wife ❤️
- When we are insecure about everything even the closest people in our life will reject us.
- Have to thrive under rejection.
- The way you ask a question and follow through in the conversation has an impact on the outcome.
- It might not change the outcome, but it can take a big sting out of the no.
- People are much kinder than we realize.
- What if I just asked? What if I had tried harder?
- Variables of an ask: Who is asking; Who is being asked; What; How; How many times; Where
- Could things have been different if you changed the variables?
- “It’s crazy what can happen if you just ask”
- Fear of rejection isn’t just psychological. It’s biology.
- What can negate fear of rejection? Humor.
- People’s rejections are a reflection. Of them - their attitudes, sense of curiosity, and risk tolerance.
- People's rejections are their opinions not fact.
- Could be their mood
- Rejection is a human interaction of 2 sides
- Rejection is an opinion
- Rejection has a number - goes through enough rejections - no can turn into a yes
Ask why after a rejection:
- Reasons and referral
- Clarify reason - may not fit their situation not you
- Seek alternative / lesser request.
- Behind a bunch of nos is a bunch of invisible yeses
- Collaborator not adversary - ice cream example
- Ask why before you say goodbye
- Retreat don’t run
- Collaborate don’t content
- Switch up don’t give up
Positioning the yes:
- Explain your why
- Give them a reason no matter how far-fetched
- Select the target
Giving no:
- Good rejectors
- Don’t use "yes-buts" or "unfortunately"
- Bad news quick and upfront
- Rejection of the request not the person
Changing the ask:
- Learn from the rejections
- Maybe you’re ahead of the curb?
- Is my no worthy of rejection?
- By not asking we miss out on experiences
Finding power:
- Sales is matching the product to the person in need
- Detach yourself from the result
- Control the controllables